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Thanksgiving schedule

Jan 18, 2019

I've often posted my daily schedules as a visual aid. Having gone over scheduling with several new clients recently, I thought it was time to post another one. But this one is pretty specific. This is my schedule for Thanksgiving Day for 2018. Bear in mind that I am a former professional chef. So, I do a pretty legit spread even though it's only for seven people. 

So I'm pretty sure I"m posted a prep list before. But this is a really good illustration of how a list of what you have to do is an amazing start. But actually scheduling time is the best way to get things done before a deadline. In this case, I wanted dinner on the table at 5:30. Thus, I had to do all this stuff before then. 

Key points: I made an initial list separated by day the previous weekend. Because there were things that I had to do ahead of time, like pick up the duck, butcher it, cure the legs, and make the stock. I also like to bake the pie the day before so I don't have to worry about that. I also made this schedule the day before to make sure I had time to actually get everything done. If it looked like I wasn't going to have time, I would have done more on Wednesday.

Try not to get too overwhelmed by this schedule's sheer number of things to get done. Remember that cooking puts me in my element. Put the principle is that whatever your "thing" is, you can use the same technique to manage very complex projects in real time. 

By the way, dinner hit the table at exactly 5:30! 



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My tattoo rule of thumb, part 2.

Jan 11, 2019

I've posted about this once before... when I got my first tattoo about 2 1/2 years ago. I'm a punk rock kid at heart. I had my hair dyed orange and twisted up in spikes into my 20's. I had 4 piercings until I had to take them out for culinary school and subsequent jobs. Why do I tell you this? Because I've always wanted a tattoo. But I didn't want to go all ADHD and get something that I would regret. So I made a rule for myself: I wouldn't get one until I had something that I loved and still loved it 5 years later. When my son was born I realized he was it. But it took me 5 years to really decide exactly what I wanted and to come up with a design that suited his personality, and then a bit longer to find the right artist. 

Then my daughter was born almost 5 years ago. I started plotting her tattoo then. I pulled the trigger a few month earlier than 5 years, but the rule still applies. I "marinated" on several design ideas and color combos and waited for her distinct personality to emerge. So I have two great pieces of ink that I love and will never regret. It just took some planning and a whole lot of patience. 



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My tattoo rule of thumb, part 2.

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Accomodations, pt. 4: Fewer classes & free periods

Dec 20, 2018

I was an English/History kid. But I'm also not the fasted reader, writer, or processor. That made it really hard to take honors/AP classes in those subjects. I had to make tough decisions about how to allocate my time. (I guess I still do.) It was pretty clear that I couldn't take the classes that I wanted to and still carry a full load. So, my parents and I had a discussion before my freshman year about how to handle that. The basically asked me if I wanted to do high school in 5 years or take something during the summer to lighten the load during the academic year. That was an easy choice for me. I wanted to graduate with my friends. So we decided that I would take my sciences during the summer. I took Bio after my freshman year and took Chem after my sophomore year. I think I just sleep for two month after surviving my junior year.

Of course that was one few class to have to worry about. Less homework, etc. But, it also gave me four extra blocks during the week to... do what? That's the question. Back in the day at Newton North, underclassmen weren't allowed to have free periods. So they wanted to stick me in study hall four more (total of six) periods a week. When I think about the idea of being in a classroom with 20 other kids who don't want to be there and may not be so quiet trying to do work and having to mostly sit still, I think I'd rather be in science class. What I needed was to go find a quiet place, put on the discman (yes, I'm old) and do whatever I needed to do to survive high school. Sometimes that was staring at the wall, sometimes it was homework, sometimes it was playing chess with a friend, sometimes "hanging out" with my girlfriend who I shared a free block with my senior year. 

The bottom line is that I may not have used those periods strictly to do homework. I may have used them as down time. But that down time allowed me to conserve energy and attention throughout the school day to get work done at home. And, being able to move around and not be sitting and chair probably helped me pay attention better during my actual classes. If your kids aren't prone to getting in trouble or just being glued to their phones, they will probably use the time "better" without having to report to a study hall. At least that was the case for me.



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Medication journal

Dec 14, 2018

I may have more accomodation posts, but I wanted to talk about the importance of a medication journal today. What, you may ask, is a medication journal? It is just a record of medications, dosages, changes, and symptoms. Finding the right medication is usually a process of trial and error. I think this is especially the case with ADHD meds. Or, perhaps I should say that the changes and effects happen so rapidly and there are so many options that the number of changes in a short period of time can be extensive. 

I've been on the same stimulant regimen for almost 20 years. So there isn't an issue there. My current antidepressant gets adjusted from time to time, but that's only one variable and the effects are pretty obvious and rapid. My son's meds are also pretty straightforward. So I've never really needed to keep track of them in a detailed matter. My daughter is a whole 'nother story. I won't get into detail about her journal, as it's kinda personal. But it did prompt me to write this. So let's start with the macro.

Especially with our kids, who are constantly growing and changing during the period of time when we are responsible for their meds, it is extremely important to keep track of what meds, what dosages, what age/size, when, and for how long. Often parents will tell me, "he took Stimulant A when he was in 3rd grade but I don't remember how much and I'm not sure why we stopped that one." This is not meant to criticize those parents. In the moment things seem so obvious and memorable, but six years later when that kids is in 9th grade, how likely is anyone to remember all the details. Specifically, one reason this is important is that as we get older, we tolerate medication much better. I've had many a client who's tried a med at 8-years-old and "hated it" for some reason. But, with a more mature body and a different outlook at 14, that medication is magical. However, if there was a serious side effect of it really didn't work at all, it's nice to remember that so as not to repeat the missteps of the past.

The following are the things that I would consider tracked as much as possible:
  1. Date's of Dr.'s appointments with a brief description of what was discussed and any decisions made.
  2. General trends in symptoms/behavior. You observations of results. 
  3. What your child is saying about how they feel. I can't tell you how many kids have said, "It makes me feel weird." Don't brush that off. Help them find the words to explain what "weird is." For one, that will empower them to take charge of how they feel and help them buy in to the treatment by making them feel heard and helping them process their feelings. Second, weird can just mean different. Read: stick with it and see how it goes while continuing to talk about it. Or, weird can be not good at all. Read: don't force it and consider changing something.
  4. Dates of changes in dosage.
  5. Dates that you start a new prescription bottle if the manufacturer has changed.
  6. Dates you go from generic to name brand or vice versa.
  7. Any potential side effects in frequency and severity. (Even if it isn't listed as a know side effect.)
Don't feel like you have to write a novel. Quick bullet points are usually enough to jog your memory. But having this detailed data can be invaluable when trying to figure out what is going on with you child... your yourself!



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Accomodations No. 4: Fidgets

Dec 7, 2018

Fidgets are an important part of managing or physical restlessness. But, they have to be "respectful" fidgets. Check out Fidget to Focus. It will give you many great ideas. But the short version is that your kids (of your) fidget needs to be something that isn't visually or auditorily distracting to everyone else. I would love to click a pen all day, but that would drive the rest of the world nuts. Something simple like a squeeze ball or a piece of putty are great. Even a paperclip or a piece of string can work. I would suggest having a variety of things in the school bag to rotate through so your fidgety-ness doesn't bet bored. 

For artistic kids, doodling can be a great option. I think I've mentioned this in a post before, but that won't stop me. I have a client who's in middle school who is quite the artist. We used to meet in person and I always let her doodle while we were meeting. She would be staring down at her paper, not making eye contact. But I could tell she was paying attention. And, I don't think I ever asked her a question and she wasn't present with the conversation. Many teachers, parents, and neurotypical people find this rather disconcerting. I would suggest they got over it. If an artistic kid focuses better while drawing, let 'em do it. 

Lastly, when doing homework on one's own fidgets can be a little less respectful and on a larger scale. I had an instructor at my coaching school who told us that he never finished a book in his adult life until he realized how kinesthetic his learning style was. He realized that he could read if he was actively rocking in a rocking chair. Now he blows through books and enjoys them.

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Accomodations No. 3: Preferential seating

Nov 30, 18

Preferential seating is often offered, but in  very specific sense. Usually it meas front row center. This is great in some respects, but other options are better for other types of kids. For example, those of us who benefit from movement, might be better off on the side of the room with the understanding that it would help us to stand up at certain time during the class. I always liked to be up front but by the side so I could go for a walk without feeling like I was disrupting class. When I take classes, go to conferences, check out lectures at this point in my life, I prefer to grab a seat in the back and end up either standing up for much of the session or even sitting on the ground in the back to afford me the most possibility of moving around. 

My point is that most kids could benefit from targeted seating, but that might not be the same for every kid with ADHD. It may even vary from class to class. And, it may be somewhat depending on who else in in the class and how long it is. Think it through with your kids. They might have an insight into this that you wouldn't have thought they'd have.



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