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Practical tips about your kids medication

Jun 14, 2019

I’ve written a bunch about how I keep my pills organized. You should be able to find those posts with the search feature. But now I’m organizing pills, miralax, supplements, melatonin, and culturelle for my kids. That requires a new level of systemization.


Most kids pills end up living in the kitchen. We have very little cabinet space and I didn’t love that they weren’t all in one place and mostly were above the toaster oven. Probably not great considering the heat. So I got pill containers for both of them for breakfast, dinner, and bedtime. And I got a corner shelf (totally free on the side of the road from a neighbor.) And, of course I always have alarms set and extra kids pills along with mine in my key fob.






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I really like my wife too!

Jun 7, 2019

I can't remember if I've posted on this before. So, thanks for your patience if I have.


I really like my wife. AND SHE REALLY LIKES ME! We have a great marriage and really complement each other. Despite my quirks, idiosyncrasies, weaknesses, and complexities, I've never, ever gotten the feeling that she didn't love me for who I am exactly the way that I am. It's possible I got that from my highschool girlfriend, but that I was too insecure to realize and appreciate it. But, I certainly never got that feeling from anyone else I'd been with before my wife.


She has a saying about me, "It's not that he's a dick... He's just intense." But she loved that intensness almost right away. I will say this, and you'll know it if you know me well, that I'm always working on myself. With 31 years post-diagnosis under my belt, I don't always present as the ADHD partner that I am. But, I'm also not the easiest guy, being that I'm pretty intense pretty much all the time as a compensation method to not be ADHD guy.


The reason I mention this is because I believe everyone has a right to be with a partner, or partners* who love them for who they really are. But we all have to do the work on ourselves to be the best version of that person. I think this extends to friends and even family as well. More on that in the next post.




*I think that it is fair to note that in this day and age, the traditional nuclear family is only one of many structures that can work. As long as you are safe, happy, and loved, I do think it should matter what your family structure looks like. And, I wanted to include this as a nod to those people I know who have “non-traditional” family structures. Don’t hate. Focus on our own happiness!




Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts much… if at all. Please excuse and typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. In my humble opinion, an imperfect post posted is infinitely better than a perfect post that goes unfinished.



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Quick update on Parenting Kids with Issues.

Jun 1, 2019

In other words, a quick update on my daughter. When I posted my entry about the trials and tribulations of parenting kids with issues my daughter was not in the best place. But, because I'm a tenacious son-of-a-gun, my wife and I are on the same page, and I have a world-class doctor, we have made substantial progress in the month since. 

First, I want to thank everyone who gave my love and positive feedback about that post. I was pretty worried about saying some of the things that I said, but thought it was important. I'm glad it was well received. Thank you all.

Second, don't give up. My daughter is now on very low doses of three different meds. Not exactly how you draw it up for you 5-year-old. But she is back to the kids who spontaneously tells me that she loves me and falls asleep in my arms most recently at a friends BBQ on Sunday. For those who are against "medicating kids," I got my daughter back... and I'd rather call it "treating kids" anyway. And, yes, sometimes that involves medication.

One last note as it relates to my last post, (backdated to look like I posted it last week, but also written today.) When my daughter is not well, she is the definition of an energy-sucker for our whole family. And, our kids are the only people in our life who we don't get to choose. Not matter what happens with her, I will love her and take care of her. Having said that, she can be really disruptive. If there is anyone else in your life who causes you that much pain and frustration, I'd consider jettisoning them from your orbit. They probably aren't worth it.



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I really like my clients!

May 24, 2019

When you first start a business it is really hard to say no to anyone. You will take anything you can get that is a paying gig and plenty that is unpaying. You also generally cast a pretty broad net until you figure out what you do best, enjoy most, and can actually make a living at.

It has been my experience that people can bring you energy or take your energy. I think I learned that from my amazing Mentor/Coach, Jerry, or maybe somewhere else in coaching school. But the more I work with a diverse group of clients the more I see this to be true. One energy-sucker in an important place in your life can destroy you. And you may not even know how damaging the effects of that person are until you get out from under their shade and into the sun. That can change everything. 

I was reflecting the other day on how much easier my coaching life is now that I have a "mature" practice. I attract clients who are serious about change and I am better at vetting them to make sure they aren't lying to themselves that they are ready. Sure, I have tough sessions, but it is different when it's a tough session with some with whom I have a real connection and to whom the work is important. There is a big difference between 50 minutes of intense presence and concentration with that person and a session with someone who isn't ready or invested. 

I had a busy week last week. 5 clients on Tuesday, 6 clients on Wednesday with only a break for my workout in the middle of the day, 4 clients and a consultation on Thursday sandwiched around a workout and a speaking engagement in Somerville (90+ minutes in the car.) And at the end of it...

... I felt somewhat fatigued but not in any way destroyed. In fact, some of those session and the speaking engagement were so productive that I found them energizing. And, that's just my professional life.



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Your pharmacist: An underrated relationship

May 13, 2019

I always say that my most important relationships are:
  1. My wife
  2. My prescribing physician
  3. My pharmacist
I'm posting this now because I've had many clients and folks in my support groups lately tell me what a hard time they've been having with their pharmacies. What do they all have in common? They all go to CVS. I haven't gone to a CVS for my regular scripts for many years, and there is a reason. They suck. They are unwilling to get me what I need, aren't truthful about when things are going to come in and don't really want to provide any actual service.

Over the years, since leaving CVS, I've used several Walgreens, an Osco inside a Shaws, an Eckard, a Rite Aid, and currently go to the pharmacy at the Wegmans in Westwood. With the exception on one particularly surly pharmacist at one Walgreens, I've never had the problems that I've had at CVS. 

Check out this catch 22 from the last time I tried to use a CVS. They only get their Schedule II meds (stimulants, etc.) delivered once a week. They put their order in on Friday for Monday. I want to pick up on Saturday. I always coordinate drop off and pick up with my food shopping. So I drop off on Saturday and pick up on the next Saturday. But since I drop off on Saturday and they refuse to keep my meds in stock, they can't put in the order until the following Friday for the next Monday. 

Then when I tried another CVS, they ordered during the week so my Saturday to Saturday cycle would work. Except that their policy was that an Rx couldn't be dropped off more than five days in advance. And, of course, they were unwilling to be flexible with that policy. So I'd have to find time to make multiple mid-week trips to the pharmacy every month. 

Currently the closest pharmacy to me is a CVS. When we moved here I went in to ask if they would be so kind as to order a specific generic brand of Clonidine for me. Since you basically can't get the name brand anymore, I've found that a specific generic works better for me as the thing that counteracts my stimulant-based insomnia. They told me that I couldn't even make the request. As I recall, they pharmacist couldn't actually do any of the ordering manually. They just got what corporate sent. 

But they were really excited to sign me up for mail order scripts. Sure. You can't make it happen in the store. Let's add in the US Postal service and I'm sure my meds will be on time and accurate. And, I'd still have to go in for the Schedule II's anyway. 

Bottom line, avoid CVS and make sure that whomever you pharmacist is that they are a human being who is willing and able to help. It shouldn't be that hard to find. Good luck.



Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts much… if at all. Please excuse and typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. In my humble opinion, an imperfect post posted is infinitely better than a perfect post that goes unfinished.



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Organizing Your Legos

Apr 19, 2019

Legos are possibly the most annoying thing in the world to organize. They defy categorization and are basically impossible to put away in any meaningful way. 

What to do with the completed sets? That depends on if your kids actually play with the sets once they are assembled. 

If your kids do play with them, what do you do with half assembled sets that have been semi-destroyed by said play?

And, if your kid has ADHD, what do you do with the 8 - 10 half assembled sets that he/she "is going to get back to and finish late?"

The first step is to consolidate the legos into one location. I've been slowly getting them all into my son's room for over the last few months. He used to put them together in the basement because if he did it anywhere else his little sister would destroy them. But he never wanted to go down there. It's not really finished... okay it's not finished at all. So, once we got them all into his room, the legos were everywhere. They were like sand on the beach.

I finally settled on a three part system that put together three previous systems for lego organization that were all semi-successful. 
  1. Shelves for the finished product. Adjustable track system-style shelves that are adjustable to accommodate the impossible different heights of completed legos with solid shelves, not wire ones. picture  #2
  2. Stacking bins for the in process sets. The key here is to have one bin per set and to try not to let the sets get mixed up. I would also suggest leaving the instructions right in the bin with the set.  picture #1
  3. One big-ass bin under his bed for all the miscellaneous pieces. Don't even try to sort those. It is not possible. I've tried a few times to sort by color or even to pull out all the wheels. You will either go blind or go insane.  not pictured
Happy building!



Standard Disclaimer:  In an effort to foil my own perfectionist tendencies, I do not edit my posts much… if at all. Please excuse and typos, mistakes, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing. I focus on getting my content down. In my humble opinion, an imperfect post posted is infinitely better than a perfect post that goes unfinished.


Organizing Your Legos
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