the two voices in our ADHD heads
I find that there are always two voices in my head. Or maybe I should say there’s one voice that comes from two different places. There’s a voice that says I don’t want to do that thing. And then there’s a voice that says I can’t do that thing cuz I don’t have the attention right now. Learning to tell the difference is the key aspect of managing ADHD. I also think it’s a key aspect of managing anxiety. the first voice it’s not a helpful voice. But it becomes our default because everything is a lot harder for us than a neurotypical person even though “easy stuff.” But as I always say, there is a word missing in English between want and able to. I do a lot of stuff everyday that I don’t want to do. But with a great medication regimen, a lot of self-care, and all the work I’ve done on myself over the years, I get everything that needs to get done done eventually. but I do have moments, days, mornings, period when I just don’t have the attention to do the things that I don’t want to do and that’s very different. There’s a danger in listening to the first voice when we don’t want to do something but if we really tried we would be able to do it. We fall into a helplessness and lack of productivity that can really make things worse. conversely, there is also a danger to not listening to your brain and body when you are in a place where you’re not able to do things because you don’t have the attention available. You could spend an hour staring at your computer or you could take a break and do something restorative so that at the end of…